Co-founder of Cambridge Sands branch looking to increase frequency of meetings for parents who have lost a baby
PUBLISHED: 11:00 07 October 2018 | UPDATED: 20:33 07 October 2018
Kym Field lost her son Alfie after just 36 hours
The co-founder of a Cambridge group which offers support to parents who have lost a child at birth wants to increase the frequency of meetings to help more people cope with such a bereavement.
Cambourne mum Kym Field, who lost son Alfie in 2015 just 36 hours after he was born, has set up a branch of Sands to support people affected by stillbirth and neonatal death.
The group was started with other mums who have all experienced such a heartbreaking loss. Their first meeting took place in October last year and Mrs Field is hoping that the annual Baby Loss Awareness Week will help them offer more support to bereaved parents on a regular basis.
Mrs Field said: “We only do bi-monthly meetings at the moment and we would like to move on to monthly ones. Our first baby, Alfie, died in 2015 around Christmas time.
“There wasn’t anywhere to go to locally and that’s what inspired all of us really. We hope that if we increase the frequency of meetings then more people will attend. Losing a baby can be really isolating and friends don’t know what to say and they cut all contact. People cross the road to avoid you. It is quite an isolating experience.
“Because people don’t know what to say, they come out with ridiculous things like ‘Everything happens for a reason’ and ‘Oh well, you’ll have another baby’, which is not really the point at the time.
“We work with Hinchingbrooke and the Rosie at Addenbrooke’s and have a family support pack that is put together by Sands.
“We also provide memory boxes because you think you have a lifetime to make memories with your child but we had 36 hours.
“I want to help people and that’s what he would have wanted us to do. That is Alfie’s legacy really. He wouldn’t have wanted us to be angry because you cannot live your life like that. Nobody can change what happened and nobody went out to kill Alfie. It is not about blame, it is about helping people.”
Alfie suffered brain damage following a complicated birth and died little more than a day later. At the inquest, Mrs Field and husband Mark learned Alfie would have survived if staff had intervened earlier to address problems with his heart rate. Cambridge University Hospitals apologised for the treatment received during labour.